Are you in a state of "psychological slavery"

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What is "psychological slave"? In our life, most people will be in this situation from time to time, such as the following psychological states. I think everyone will have some in different degrees. Let's get rid of this state

Are you in a state of "psychological slavery"

First, "what other people think" is the most common "psychological slave", which is the most destructive to creativity and personality. It is more common in people with immature psychology. "If I talk more, others will think that I love to be in the limelight", "if I do that, others will laugh at me" This kind of "other people" thinking makes it a slave of "other people" thinking. Most of these "psychological slaves" also listen to the advice of unqualified people, which will seriously affect their creativity. Countermeasures: if you can feel happy after imitating others, try your best to imitate. Otherwise, you should live your own way. ② Face other people's different views and criticisms rationally, because the higher the position is, the more chances people will be taken as chatting objects and criticized. ③ Make friends with people who are aggressive, helpful and like-minded.

Second: "doomed to failure" slaves, this type of "psychological slaves" lack self-awareness, think that they are very small, unable to really see themselves. They often complain that "I don't have a good chance", "I will fail", "people around me are against me", "leaders don't value me" In fact, thinking itself can influence the development of things. When a person wants what he wants, he will become like that. Countermeasures: ① if you often use good, positive and constructive vocabulary to express yourself, you will enhance your self-confidence. At ordinary times, we should try to think about "why we can do it" instead of "why we can't do it". ② Thinking about "I'm going to succeed" and "I'm a winner" will strengthen my belief in winning and try to find ways to "contribute to success".

Third: "too late" slaves, such as "psychological slaves", usually think that they should do something at a certain age. For example, some people think that they have missed a very good opportunity, and now they are in a dilemma, and they have to leave it to fate. Some people think that they are too old to go to university at the age of 26, while others think that they are too old to remarry at the age of 40. Countermeasures: ① ignore the age limit, and look for fresh examples from life. ② We can't just muddle along. We should work towards our ideals in a planned and step-by-step way.

matters needing attention

The slaves of "sense of security", many people would rather eat "big pot rice" than reform, this is the typical "sense of security" slaves. Lack of imagination is the common psychological characteristic of the slaves with "sense of security". In fact, risks exist objectively. Human survival and development is a process of continuous struggle and elimination of insecurity. Countermeasures: make life colorful and colorful. ② Because there are risks, there will be climbing, there will be difficulties, there will be breakthroughs, there will be pressure, there will be fighting. Therefore, we should learn to face all kinds of difficulties and rare and unknown things.