Seven psychological barriers affecting interpersonal communication

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Good social relations can make individuals study, live and work happily in a warm and pleasant environment. But in the actual communication process, there are always some unsatisfactory places more or less, which affect the normal interpersonal communication.

Seven psychological barriers affecting interpersonal communication

First, being suspicious is a bad psychological quality in interpersonal communication. It can be said that it is the moth of the tree of friendship. As the British philosopher Bacon said: "the suspicious heart is like a bat, it always takes off at dusk. This kind of mood is confusing and confusing. It can make you lost, confuse friends and enemies, and destroy people's career. " People with suspicious psychology tend to set others' dissatisfaction with themselves subjectively, and then look for evidence in life. With the mentality of being beggar thy neighbor, we must impose the fact that nothing is created, or even misinterpret the goodwill of others as malice. This is a kind of narrow, one-sided and groundless blind imagination.

Second: inferiority complex the research of American psychologists shows that if children get the recognition, support and praise from teachers, parents and peers for their achievements in various activities, they will enhance their self-confidence, thirst for knowledge, get a kind of happiness and satisfaction, and develop a good habit of diligent and studious. Instead, they develop a sense of frustration and inferiority. The formation of individual inferiority is mainly the result of the long-term influence of social environment. The shallow feeling of inferiority is that others look down on themselves, while the deep understanding is that they look down on themselves, that is, lack of self-confidence.

Third: conceit only cares about personal needs, emphasizes one's own feelings, and shows defiance in interpersonal communication. When you get together with your companions, you will lose your temper when you are not happy, and when you are happy, you will talk happily, regardless of other people's emotions and attitudes. In addition, in the relationship between themselves and others, overestimate the intimacy of each other, and say something that should be said. This kind of too intimate behavior, on the contrary, will make people alienate from it out of psychological prevention.

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The jealous Spanish writer cervance pointed out: "the jealous always observe everything with the telescope. In the telescope, small objects become bigger, short people become giants, and doubts become facts." Jealousy is a kind of disaffection, displeasure, loss, hatred, and even some destructive and dangerous emotion towards people who are connected with themselves but stronger than themselves. It is a kind of negative mentality produced by comparing oneself with others. When you see that someone who has a certain connection with you has achieved a superior position or achievement, you will have a kind of resentment; when the other party faces or falls into a disaster, you will watch the fire from afar and gloat. Even with the help of rumors, slander, create difficulties, wear shoes and other means to belittle others, comfort themselves. As Hegel said, "a jealous person who can't accomplish a great cause by himself will try his best to underestimate the greatness of others and make them equal to himself. The characteristics of jealousy are: pertinence - people who are related to themselves; equivalence - people who are similar to their occupation, level and age but surpass themselves; latent - most jealousy psychology is latent, and the behavior is more secretive.