What is insecurity?

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I am very afraid of being alone at home. I always feel that someone follows me, makes a boyfriend and is afraid of losing him. So I always treat him coldly. I'm afraid that I can't leave him and I'm indifferent to the people around me. What's the matter,???? Lack of security??? What is the lack of security??? Let's share my experience with you.

What is insecurity?

Security is a kind of feeling and psychology; It is the feeling that comes from the performance of one side to the other side; Is a kind of people can rest assured, can be comfortable, can rely on, can be trusted in the aspects of speech and behavior.

Second, whether it can produce a sense of security comes from many factors, including subjective and objective factors. Here we mainly talk about the subjective aspect. To make the other party feel safe, the first thing to do is to make the other party believe in themselves.

1. You can't make decisions on daily affairs without getting a lot of advice and assurance from others. 2. Helplessness, let others make most important decisions for themselves, such as where to live and what career to choose. 3. The feeling of being abandoned. Knowing that others are wrong, he agrees with them because he is afraid of being abandoned by others. 4. Without independence, it is difficult to plan or do things alone. 5. Excessive tolerance, willing to do low or unwilling things to please others. 6. Feel uncomfortable and helpless when you are alone, or try your best to escape loneliness. 7. Feel helpless or collapsed when the intimate relationship stops.

matters needing attention

You can recall the words that your parents, elders and friends said to you when you were a child. For example, "you are so stupid that you can't do anything."“ Look at your clumsiness. Let me do it for you. " When you are trying to do something, you should not criticize you with these words, but encourage and help you with enthusiasm. The second step is to rebuild courage. You can choose to do some slightly adventurous things, one every week, for example: a short trip to nearby scenic spots alone; Go to an entertainment activity alone or set a "Independence Day" every week. No matter what happens on this day, you will never rely on others. By doing these things, you can increase your courage and change your weakness of relying on others for everything