How to treat mental trauma
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We should learn not to point our fingers at others and think that they have made us what we are today. The first step of psychotherapy is "self-examination", to understand what happened in the course of growing up, and to examine it from the perspective of the present. How to treat the mental trauma.
How to treat mental trauma
First, examine the scars of the past. First, we should learn not to point our fingers at others. We should think that others have made us what we are today. The first step of psychotherapy is "self-examination", to understand what happened in the course of growing up, and to examine it from the perspective of the present. From a psychological point of view, the "emotional overreaction" that makes a person particularly angry or excessively injured is usually related to the original family when he was a child. People should learn to examine what happened in the past from the present, more mature and more objective standpoint. If your father has been very unfeeling to you, try to look at it from a new perspective, you may understand that your father had no choice, or he just said a word carelessly, but the harm to you is so real and deep. Unless you can re explore, it's hard to get out of it. Even if your father's harm to you is intentional, spiritual exploration and healing can also reduce the harm, help you accept other people's shortcomings, learn to put yourself in the right place, see the reason why your father does that, and then forgive him. Children's endurance is not enough. When they encounter something, it sometimes causes deep injury. But if we can trace back the situation with the eyes of adults, the wound will not be so big. This is why it is important to review the psychological process.
Second, when we understand the three types of self-defense in interpersonal interaction, there are three types of self-defense. We should understand these three types, analyze which one we belong to, and then clearly know where the problem is? The first is "flattering type", which protects itself by "flattering people". This kind of person is always smiling. The way to protect himself is to say sweet words. He takes the initiative to shake hands with others and say hello. With the inner oath of "as long as I'm good, people will love me", he hopes that everyone in the world will love him. But if we always face problems in the same way without flexibility, there will be a situation. Everyone should grow up and learn to solve problems with a more mature attitude and method. The second type is "attack type". Before people criticize him, they criticize others fiercely and keep a distance from everyone. In this way, you can hide your weakness and avoid being stabbed easily, but the price is too high, because he needs love very much in his heart, but he refuses others thousands of miles away with an aggressive attitude. The third type is "isolation type", which neither attacks nor flatters others, but hides itself, keeps a long distance and looks on coldly. Some people are "computer type". They use logical analysis to do everything, overuse rationality, protect themselves by isolating their feelings, do not interact with others, and do not tell others what is on their mind. It seems that they are isolated and difficult to get close to others. Some people are "clowns". Although they are smiling on the surface, they never open their inner world. They can make you laugh, but they don't share their thoughts at all. In this way, although we can achieve the purpose of protecting ourselves, we can't enjoy the joy of being in harmony with people's hearts.
Third: find a safe person to keep secrets. Emotional or experiential learning is far better than only knowledge learning. When you are looking back, you'd better have a safe person beside you. This person is a friend who knows you very well and can let you be yourself. Sometimes the closest person may not be the safest person, so you need to find someone who can help you keep secrets and will not have different opinions on you because you have talked about some in-depth issues. At the same time, you need to ask yourself if you can be the kind person who can listen more and judge less. When we can really listen, accept and understand each other, we will be healed in it. This kind of emotional therapy experience is the most important part in the process of spiritual healing. When we examine the past pain with a bigger, farther and more mature vision, the magic of destruction will disappear and decrease. Many years ago, a child can not bear the pain. After years of learning and wisdom, he will be more able to solve the difficulties at that time. In the process of psychological review, if the exploration is only a little unpleasant, you can do it by yourself. If it is a big injury, such as sexual assault, you need to find someone who has received professional training to help. These people can not only keep secrets, but also understand the process of treatment, know how to take care of and deal with it, and help people heal their wounds. Whether it's repairing cars or flying airplanes, any professional must go through long-term discipline and technical training, not to mention the most important marriage and family in life? We also need to learn to become a good father, a good mother and a good child. Psychotherapy is an "individualized" education course, which teaches a person to know himself and other people's emotions.
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In the past, you need professional guidance to help you get rid of the deep trauma and find the right support group. If someone walks with you, you will not feel so lonely and have more strength to face the problem. Maybe my failure is something that others have experienced. Other people's successful experience can help me to cheer up and support each other. As the train of life roars by, we should always check our mind. We should replace the old with the new in dealing with problems that were useful in the past, but are and will never be used again in the future.
