What should we pay attention to when dating?

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The Chinese nation has a long history of 5000 years of culture, is a veritable cultural nation. Then, in the thousands of years of marriage culture, blind date occupies a very important position. Not only in ancient times, but also in today's advanced technology, information and social communication, blind date has also become the love of many young and old people and the main way for many marriageable men and women to choose their spouse.

What should we pay attention to when dating?

First: avoid selling too much of your family to the other party. It will make the other party feel that you are an emotional dependent person. Once you are not satisfied in the future, you will find him to vomit bitterness! Under this kind of negative psychological defense, few people are willing to have in-depth contact with you. On the contrary, in the first meeting, if you only talk about your personal situation, it will leave you a sense of mystery and look forward to meeting you next time!

Second: always leave time for the other party to speak and fully respect his right to speak Social psychology research found that 27% of unsuccessful blind dates are due to the embarrassing situation that one party talks too much and the other party is speechless! In life, people with opposite personalities can also become lovers, intimate friends or blue confidants, but for the first meeting, the two sides are not familiar with each other, and they should abide by the principle of absolute fairness from scratch. It is suggested that you try to leave time for the other party to talk in the dialogue, so that people can feel your consideration and equality.

Third: the spirit focuses on the other party's "triangle" wandering, with the other side's eyebrows as the top angle, two cheekbones as the bottom angle of the triangle, which is called "focus area" by psychologists. When talking with the other person, if your eyes constantly drift away from this "triangle", it will give people the feeling of being strongly focused and becoming the focus, which will make people feel more favorable to you! On the contrary, if you stare at the other person's eyes, it will make him hostile at the beginning.

matters needing attention

Don't talk about heavy topics. Don't just ask the bottom of the matter in order to promote understanding. Don't be full of curiosity about lovelorn, breakup, unemployment and other issues. Even if you are really curious, please wait until you are more familiar with them.