Are parents often anxious and addicted for their children? So what should parents do?

summary

In this era of competition, children's achievements become the heart of parents. Many parents worry that their children will lose at the starting line, so they are extremely concerned about their children's studies. Even think that children's bad grades, impoliteness and other aspects of the problem are the influence of their own way of education, showing a very anxious phenomenon, and these performances will make children feel more pressure, have a great impact on the psychological growth of children.

Are parents often anxious and addicted for their children? So what should parents do?

First: the evolution of love, the concentrated expression of parental love is to sacrifice their own material, to ensure the material survival conditions of children. But now, the lack of material is in the secondary position. Parents should evolve the way of love, separate from the previous way of paying attention to material, and pay more attention to children's personality growth and psychological needs.

Second: don't get out of control in front of the child. Maybe the child will have one or two abnormal performances. Maybe the traffic and accommodation during the exam make you angry But no matter what happens, try to keep calm and think about how to solve the problem. Don't lose control of your emotions or in front of your children. It's too emotional. Let it out when the child is not present. Don't vent in front of the children.

Third: don't try to be a child's psychologist. Many parents care about their children's feelings at this time. If they feel that their children's emotions are not right, they will involuntarily play the role of correcting their children's emotions. But the relationship between parents and children is so special that it is difficult for parents to succeed in acting as their child's psychologist. If the children and their parents always have good communication, then the parents can play this role. If they lack communication at ordinary times, it is useless to cram temporarily.

matters needing attention

Give children space, but parents' opinions are very right, very mature? As a matter of fact, parents are often as irrational as their children when they are angry. They always ask for it according to their own past experience. However, their demands are unreasonable and out of date. Or it's often just to defend the authority of parents. If parents are responsible for their children's growth and make decisions for their children, then children will not learn to make their own decisions and will not be decisive and thinking. Only when parents leave enough personal space for their children can they develop a complete independent personality.