How can you tell your dissatisfaction to your lover and learn more about it first?

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Now we should understand this disease. Everyone's personality is different. Besides, the two people who are in love are different genders. Who knows what the other person is thinking. We are not the worms in each other's stomach, so it is impossible to know every little thought of him like the palm of your hand. Maybe your casual words are sad in each other's eyes, so when we have dissatisfaction, how to tell our lovers? Let me learn from you today.

How can you tell your dissatisfaction to your lover and learn more about it first?

First: Cold War: the cold war between lovers is mainly that two people don't talk to each other, then you do yours and I do mine, eat together but don't talk, watch TV together but don't communicate, sleep together but have no topic. In short, two people become familiar strangers and have no feelings for each other. Among all the ways to express dissatisfaction, the cold war seems to be more moderate, but its real lethality is no less than any other way. Because the essence of other methods is still communication and communication, and there is still a little room for maneuver. But once the cold war broke out, almost all the possibilities of emotional communication were cut off, and the estrangement and estrangement caused by it were hard to make up for.

Second: endless complaints, there will always be a little quarrel between lovers, if moderate, nature is also the adjustment of life. But the endless complaint is that one party does not miss every opportunity, or the lover makes a mistake and negligence, or the lover makes a small mistake, as if he has caught the lover's big handle, and tirelessly uses all kinds of things to attack and satirize, as if he has been wronged by the lover. The root of complaint comes from the dissatisfaction with the lover, and the function of complaint is to build a barrier for yourself before accepting your dissatisfaction and resist the harm of negative emotions. But when you complain, you lose the chance to improve your relationship.

Third: if there is a dispute between lovers, it is often because of a specific thing. However, because of my dissatisfaction with my lover, the content of the dispute will easily escalate from anger at this incident to anger at this person. I'm angry and don't argue. I feel sorry for myself: Why did I fall in love with this person at the beginning? No matter what happened, it's all because of the lover's personality problems. It is not only a huge spiritual burden for lovers, but also will push your contradictions to a situation that is difficult to reverse. It is not conducive to your relationship, but also will make your emotions suffer a heavy blow. In fact, everyone has requirements for his or her lover. If the lover fails to meet his or her requirements, he or she will naturally have emotions and dissatisfaction. But before you express this dissatisfaction, you need to respect the following principles.

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Therefore, the most important thing between people is communication, whether with parents or lovers, should communicate more, so the cold war and complaints are useless, we should pay attention to their own ideas, let the other party understand your ideas, learn to stand on the other side's point of view, in order to really solve the problem